January 28, 2015: ReVisionary

ROWin’ merrily through my goals!

So, did you see snow this week? I just shoveled about three inches of extremely powdery and not at all historic white stuff – and then slipped on the ice and fell – probably because I was wearing my 13 year old’s enormous man-boots, because the zipper on my seven year old, awesomely comfortable Land’s End pair gave up the ghost when I pulled it on…*pouts just a little*. I’m not badly hurt, but I’m all done playing in the snow for today.

Anyway, it’s my last January update. I’ve made progress, and I’ve still got a few days left to the month, so there will be more. What I don’t finish this month, I’ll carry over to February – with our family vacation to Oregon at the end of the month, I’m going to keep things simple.

I’m doing well with what I most want to complete – my Write1 Sub1 and Just Jot It January challenges. Finishing should be right on target.

As for everything else, read on!

And how about you? Are you staying warm and dry? Are you moving toward achieving your goals?

January Update #7:

  • Goals attained: blue with strikethrough: 22.5

  • Goals in progress: green: 26.5

  • Goals-in-waiting: red: 9

Focuses:

  • Revisions: Chameleon’s Dish; The IDIC Romance; and “Morning Coffee”.

  • Write1Sub1: Terrance’s Story (for Kifo Island Chronicles); “Morning Coffee”.

  • Oregon Trip: Planning and preparing.

Last year’s storm…

Writing:

Write1Sub1:

Write rough draft of Terrance’s story (for Kifo Island Chronicles)

Submit “Morning Coffee” to World Unknown Review.

  • Revisions moving along.

Kifo Island Chronicles:

Sort stories into novella threads; choose three.

Complete background information for at least one, using Cathy Yardley‘s Rock Your Plot.

Star Trek Chronology Project:

Complete current viewing of Star Trek: Enterprise. 

Rewatch Season 1; taking notes and beginning story list.

The IDIC Romance:

Research fan fiction sites.

  • Looked at one; decided against. Nothing recent there.

Choose one for first submission.

A-Z travel posts:

Create list of A-Z post topics.

Trueborn Warp/Weft series:

Sketch notes for next volume in each series.

Write at least 750 words daily:

Use 750words.com for freewriting and to chart progress.

  • 27/31 days.
  • Missed 1/31; 700/750 words.

Editing:

Chameleon’s Dish:

Revise all midpoints for Chameleon’s Dish (6.5 scenes).

The IDIC Romance:

Complete revision pass for “Tigress T’Pol” as WIPpet project.

Combine “Breaking Protocol”, “Mystery Woman”, and “Magical Possibilities” into new rough draft.

  • Creating Scene 1 of the new draft.

Write1Sub1

Revise “Morning Coffee”.

  • Exercise 4/5 nearing completion.

Choose at least 1 more story for 2015 revision.

Social Media:

Blog Maintenance:

Maintain regular posting schedule, comments, and visits.

  • Yes.

Build blog queues:

Write at least 1 Coffee and Conversation post:

Write 1 “special” WIPpet.

Blogging Action Plan:

Review Blogging Action Plan; highlight for revision.

  • Highlighted for February revision.

Review Lovely Chaos Sidebar; make list of desired changes.

Twitter and Facebook:

Visit each twice weekly.

  • Facebook: 1/ 2
  • Twitter: 0/ 2

Pinterest, LinkedIn,  WANATribe, ect:

Visit at least one weekly.

Share posts – mine, and others’:

Share 3 items a week.

Blog views and followers:

Increase blog views to 25 on a semi-regular basis (at least 10 times this month).

  • 26/31.

Snow girl!

Hometending:

Family room reset:

Clean the three toy bins (trains; gears; misc.).

Clean the Lego and battle game drawers.

Kitchen reset:

Clean kitchen counter to left of sink.

Rehome pans and serving dishes to pantry.

Inhabit my study:

Clean and organize floor.

  • More progress!

Replace calendar and candle.

Use the space weekly.

Personal Administration:

Clean, organize, and backup Desktop and Writing Bullpen files‘; sort Leisure Time Reading file.

Maintain inbox below 100 messages twice weekly.

  • Some reduction Tuesday; not under 100. 0/2.

Homeschool Administration:

Begin second quarter homeschool reports for both kids, due March 15.

Photo digitalization:

Scan Oregon travel photos; save in organized files with backup.

ROW80:

Submit sponsor post.

Keep visits up-to-date.

Lifetending:

Oregon vacation:

Make list of what needs doing.

Make schedule for accomplishing list items.

Do what can be done in January; evaluate weekly.

Kindle ebooks:

Read and write reviews for 2 books on my Writers I Know list.

NNWM local group:

Continue attending write-ins whenever possible.

Interact at least weekly online.

Meditation:

Experiment with guided/unguided meditation at least once a week.

TBR Stacks:

Read 1 book from bedroom TBR pile.

Smart Change:

Make a list of goals to focus on, using the methods in this book.

Starfleet:

Reconnect with USS Albany group.

My beloveds:

One on one time with each, at least twice per month, doing something of value to us both.

  • 5/2 -Accomplice.
  • 6/2 – Jeremiah.
  • 6/2 -Annalise.
  • Late night conversation and hanging out; couples time.

Paying it Forward:

Complete at least two beta reads and promotional blog posts for other writers as requested.

Fitness and Nutrition:

Workouts:

At the Y or a strenuous activity at least weekly.

Wii Fit at least once weekly, for 15 minutes minimum.

Walk, dance, swim, or physical play:

With children, spouse, and/or dog at least weekly.

Practice:

Find out t’ai chi and yoga class schedules.

Intuitive Eating:

Read.

  • 21% complete.

Cooking/ Food Preparation:

Develop a repertoire of 4 self-made food options that support my nutritional goals.

Maintain weekly nutritional quotas; adapt as needed.

Weight:

Maintain or reduce weight; continue monthly checks.

Take a ride on the ROWboat!

Outback in the snow…

JusJoJan Day 25: Kids: Who Owns Their Sexuality?

Jottin’ my way through January!

One day, I held up a size 8 girls’ outfit to my newborn daughter – and it was longer than her entire bassinette (which she wasn’t yet close to filling). I couldn’t believe that she would ever grow to a size where she would fit into such an enormous piece of clothing.

That was ten and a half years ago, and that tiny little girl passed size 8 a while back. She’s robust and curvy and on her way to becoming a teenager. Her older brother, at a few months past his thirteenth birthday, has a man’s voice, is dealing with acne, and is taller than me.

Man, that went fast!

When our kids are young, it can be all but impossible to see them as sexual beings, and the time when we need to think of them them that way seems far off, as unimaginable as my newborn and that huge article of clothing.

But children grow, and, in what might seem the blink of an eye, babies become young people on the cusp of entering into their sexual awakenings.

And that leads to the question – who owns their sexuality?

There’s a persistent attitude in American culture that suggests that we, as parents, do. That we’re in charge of whom and how our children date, when and how or if they have sex, that it’s up to us to control these things. Control is a huge thing, in mainstream American parenting theory. We’re all intended, it seems, to control our kids. And teenagers are notorious for being “out of control”.

But the truth, whether the ‘parenting experts’ want to admit to it or not, is that there is only one person whose behavior each of us can control – ourselves.

I can’t control my own children. My teenager and my preteen are -gasp! – out of control (or mine and my Accomplice’s, anyway).

The thing is, though, that we’re not trying to control them.

Does that mean that we’re just throwing up our hands, and letting nature take its course?

Well, not exactly.

We’ve talked with them about sex since they were toddlers. Those early talks were very basic – the proper names for sexual anatomy; how babies are conceived and born, nursing, and the like.

As they’ve grown, the conversation has expanded- not as The Talk that’s infamous to both parents and kids for its awkwardness and general lack of information kids actually need – but as part of life, a sentence or two here, a few questions answered there, a wandering exploration somewhere else. It’s all been pretty organic, arising out of life – looking at the prices in the baby department, that experimentation with condoms and zucchinis, making sure they have access to reliable information they can access with a parent or independently, and chatting.

We’re open, and we trust them, their instincts, and their judgment. Are we foolish, expecting too much of our children, and trusting them too much and too blindly?

Not so many generations ago, a thirteen year old would be considered nearly a man. Fourteen and fifteen year olds might be married and beginning their own families, perhaps far away from all their own relatives. So it’s clearly not biologically necessary for teenagers to be controlled, to restrain them from expressing their sexual maturity, to attempt to control whether or how they have sex, with whom, and where.

The truth is, and it’s been borne up time and again, that parents can’t control these things, no matter how hard they try, or punish. They might destroy their relationships with their teens – but they can’t control them forever. Eventually, kids do grow up, and become legally responsible for themselves, and, at that point, it’s usually too late for the parents. Too late to give useful and important information, and maybe too late to repair the damage done to their relationships, so that the young adults won’t come to parents when they need advice.

But long before they’re adults, kids are big enough and strong enough to choose whether they’ll allow their parents to control them. I have a thirteen year old who’s already taller than me – and he’s not about to stop growing anytime soon. If I try to force him, he can resist. By concentrating on building a relationship where he can come to me for advice, because he values my opinion, and knows that I won’t try to rob him of his autonomy, I retain the ability to offer him support as he grows older.

Who owns their sexuality? Whatever parents choose to think or feel about it, the kids themselves do. Accepting this allows us to focus our energy on preparing them with the knowledge and empowerment that they need to navigate the obstacles, challenges, and pleasures of the years to come.

Find more JusJoJan posts here!

Free to explore from the Tree of Knowledge?

January 25, 2015: Focusing My Vision

ROWin’ along through January!

Wow, here we are – already at the penultimate January update! A little hard to believe, isn’t it?

It’s the time in the month where I tend to narrow my focus to those items I most want to complete. In this case, it’s my Write1 Sub1 and Just Jot It January challenges.

I intentionally set a large and diverse array of goals, knowing that I wouldn’t have time to finish everything on the list, but that I could move many things forward. As we move through the last week of the month, I’m a little astounded by how far I’ve come – nearly everything started, and more than two dozen completed, with nearly that many more in progress.

What isn’t finished this month will form the basis of my February goals. With a trip to Oregon taking up the second half of the month, it seems like a good idea not to pile on a heap of new goals. Oh, and I’m sharing Oregon pictures from looong ago, because I finally can! =)

And how about you? Have you found your stride in this new year, or are you still feeling things out, and choosing a direction?

January Update #6:

  • Goals attained: blue with strikethrough: 31.5

  • Goals in progress: green: 23.5

  • Goals-in-waiting: red: 3.5

Focuses:

  • Revisions: Chameleon’s Dish; The IDIC Romance; and “Morning Coffee”.

  • Write1Sub1: Terrance’s Story (for Kifo Island Chronicles); “Morning Coffee”.

  • Oregon Trip: Planning and preparing.

Bunko-dog vs. The Kelp Monster!

Writing:

Write1Sub1:

Write rough draft of Terrance’s story (for Kifo Island Chronicles).

  • Began the draft! I like Terrance quite a lot.

Submit “Morning Coffee” to World Unknown Review.

  • Revisions ongoing.

Kifo Island Chronicles:

Sort stories into novella threads; choose three.

Complete background information for at least one, using Cathy Yardley‘s Rock Your Plot

Star Trek Chronology Project:

Complete current viewing of Star Trek: Enterprise. 

Rewatch Season 1; taking notes and beginning story list.

The IDIC Romance

Research fan fiction sites.

Choose one for first submission.

A-Z travel posts:

Create list of A-Z post topics.

Trueborn Warp/Weft series:

Sketch notes for next volume in each series.

Write at least 750 words daily:

Use 750words.com for freewriting and to chart progress.

  • 23/31 days.
  • Missed by 50 words on 1/24; I forgot about them! Overall, I’m ahead, though.

Driftwood Bounty!

Editing:

Chameleon’s Dish:

Revise all plot points for Chameleon’s Dish (6.5 scenes).

  • Changing goal to all midpoints.
  • Midpoint 2/3 in revision.

The IDIC Romance:

Complete revision pass for “Tigress T’Pol” as WIPpet project.

Combine “Breaking Protocol”, “Mystery Woman”, and “Magical Possibilities” into new rough draft.

Write1Sub1:

Revise “Morning Coffee”.

  • Exercise 4/5 progressing.

Choose at least 1 more story for 2015 revision.

Fitful Pacific Sunset

Social Media:

Blog Maintenance:

Maintain regular posting schedule, comments, and visits.

  • Yes.

Build blog queues:

Write at least 1 Coffee and Conversation post:

Write 1 “special” WIPpet.

Blogging Action Plan:

Review Blogging Action Plan; highlight for revision.

  • Highlighted for February revision.

Review Lovely Chaos Sidebar; make list of desired changes.

Twitter and Facebook:

Visit each twice weekly.

  • Facebook: 2/ 2
  • Twitter: 5/ 2 – I’m really starting to love it!

Pinterest,LinkedIn, WANATribe, ect:

Visit at least one weekly.

  • 2/1.

Share posts – mine, and others’:

Share 3 items a week.

Blog views and followers:

Increase blog views to 25 on a semi-regular basis (at least 10 times this month).

  • 24/31.

Silhouette of an old friend long gone….

Hometending:

Family room reset:

Clean the three toy bins (trains; gears; misc.).

Clean the Lego and battle game drawers.

Kitchen reset:

Clean kitchen counter to left of sink.

Rehome pans and serving dishes to pantry.

Inhabit my study:

Clean and organize floor.

  • More progress!

Replace calendar and candle.

Use the space weekly.

Personal Administration:

Clean, organize, and backup Desktop and Writing Bullpen files‘; sort Leisure Time Reading file.

Maintain inbox below 100 messages twice weekly.

  • Tuesday. 1 /2.

Homeschool Administration:

Begin second quarter homeschool reports for both kids, due March 15.

Photo digitalization:

Scan Oregon travel photos; save in organized files with backup.

  • Done!

ROW80:

Submit sponsor post.

Keep visits up-to-date.

My Accomplice, the Oregon boy, before the blue beard. =)

Lifetending:

Oregon vacation:

Make list of what needs doing.

Make schedule for accomplishing list items.

Do what can be done in January; evaluate weekly.

Kindle ebooks:

Read and write reviews for 2 books on my Writers I Know list.

NNWM local group:

Continue attending write-ins whenever possible.

Interact at least weekly online.

Meditation:

Experiment with guided/unguided meditation at least once a week.

  • Focal point meditation – fingertips.

TBR Stacks:

Read 1 book from bedroom TBR pile.

Smart Change:

Make a list of goals to focus on, using the methods in this book.

  • Reread Chapter One.

Starfleet:

Reconnect with USS Albany group.

My beloveds:

One on one time with each, at least twice per month, doing something of value to us both.

  • 4/2 -Accomplice.
  • 5/2 – Jeremiah.
  • 6/2 -Annalise.
  • Late night conversation and hanging out.

Paying it Forward:

Complete at least two beta reads and promotional blog posts for other writers as requested.

Pacific Twilight

Fitness and Nutrition:

Workouts:

At the Y or a strenuous activity at least weekly.

Wii Fit at least once weekly, for 15 minutes minimum.

  • Totally forgot!

Walk, dance, swim, or physical play:

With children, spouse, and/or dog at least weekly.

Practice:

Find out t’ai chi and yoga class schedules.

Intuitive Eating:

Read.

  • 10% complete.

Cooking/ Food Preparation:

Develop a repertoire of 4 self-made food options that support my nutritional goals.

Maintain weekly nutritional quotas; adapt as needed.

Weight:

Maintain or reduce weight; continue monthly checks.

Take a ride on the ROWboat!

We were taking selfies way back in 1997, before they even had a name!

SoCS and JusJoJan Day 24: Coitus Interrupt Us

Merrily down the stream of consciousness!

I’m thinking the name says it all, here, so be warned; this is a post about sex. If that’s not your cuppa tea, might I suggest popping over to sample one or more of these posts, instead:

Speaking of a cuppa, I think I should have another before I begin…

Okay, I’m back.

This post is doing double duty. It’s an entry in Just Jot It January, for the January 21-30 prompt. It’s also my Stream of Consciousness Saturday post for today’s theme: most/least.

One of our children, when an infant and toddler, had the nickname Coitus Interrupt Us – for the sake of sparing potential embarrassment for the person in question, I will not say which, although the party has actually granted permission for me to do so.

It was a moniker well earned – there simply did not seem to be a time when we embarked upon a lovemaking journey when this child, even if previously sound asleep (which was most often the case, young children having rather frequent and immediate need for parental attention on a near-constant basis) would suddenly be wide-awake, and usually distraught, hungry, dirty, or all of these.

We tried different parts of the house and different times – it was no good. We got really, really fast – but not fast enough. Our offspring foiled us, again and again and yet again. It was, bluntly, a heckuva dry spell for us.

I’ve always felt that one of the greatest jokes that nature plays on humanity is the way sex creates children, and children can all but eliminate sex from their parents’ lives. We had the most sex when we were hoping to create or add to our family, and by far the least in the first months and years after succeeding at those goals.

A little hand-holding in the car can go a looong way! And taking a picture means you might remember it later!

There are innumerable commercials that say, in cooing tones, “Having a baby changes everything.”

If you aren’t yet a parent, but hope to be one day, believe it. And know that it means sex, too.

Try to prepare yourself.

And know that it does get easier. Kids have this way of growing up, you see. If you can handle that long mostly-dry spell (not every child has the unerring instinct our young CIU had; our other child was far less apt to catch us ‘in the moment’, as it were), and tend to your wee one’s needs with something approaching good cheer, even when your desires have been thwarted for the nteenth time in the last week, you will – eventually – be rewarded by a child who spends more time engaged in his or her own independent pursuits, or who can sleep for more than an hour or two at a stretch. And my guess is, you’ll be pretty quick – and mightily adept – at making use of those opportunities!

I’m here, with now-older offspring, to tell you that it doesn’t have to be permanent. It may never be as spontaneous or easy as it was in those pre-baby days – but you can get back to a point where sex isnt just that thing you remember longingly from the days before you decided to use it for the purpose of procreation, but something you can do more or less regularly, now.

Really.

And, in case this has terrified you, consider this: you will appreciate those moments of closeness a whole lot more, when you know what it is not to be able to find the time to rub moments or lips together for a while.

And, in the between time, there are measures you can take that don’t disrespect your children’s needs – or yours. Once, we set up an afternoon playdate for the kids to hang with their similarly-aged cousins. We did this weeks in advance, and I went out and bought massage products. We spent the entire time the kids were gone on our bed, touching, chatting, and making love – very much the way we had at the very beginning of our relationship. Only, then, we had taken it for granted. With only those precious few hours to know that we wouldn’t be interrupted (barring emergency, that is!), we valued them far more. It’s still a treasured memory, that decadent sunny afternoon when we lolled on our bed as indolent as cats in a sunspot.

By the way, injecting a little humor into the situation can do wonders.  That nickname we gave our child was an inside joke between the two of us, back then, a way to laugh when we wanted to scream or cry. It reminded us not to take the whole thing too seriously.  And shared laughter can be pretty danged sexy, in its own right – and it can last for years and years – years during which the young purveyor of involuntary parental abstinence will grow….

If you’re a parent, have you had this experience, or is it just our child who was supernaturally talented?

Find more sexy jottings (and maybe fewer interruptions!) here!

Just Jotting sexily through January!

January 21, 2015: Variable Visions

ROW, ROW, ROW your boat….

Can you believe that January is already winding down?

There were fewer people at the Y today, and I didn’t see any tours happening. So, resolutions may be waning, for some of those who set them. Since I’m a big-goals-taken-in-baby-steps type, I’m starting to see some cumulative progress, and I’m eager to see which goals I can complete in the next ten days. I’ve got most things in progress, now, and the longer-term projects are moving along. I’ll be patching in some of the smaller ones I haven’t spent much time with, too, for the remainder of this month.

Are you seeing progress with your goals or resolutions, or considering revisions to your vision?

January Update #5:

  • Goals attained: blue with strikethrough: 24.5

  • Goals in progress: green: 27

  • Goals-in-waiting: red: 6.5

Focuses:

  • Revisions: Chameleon’s Dish; The IDIC Romance; and “Morning Coffee”.

  • Write1Sub1: Terrance’s Story (for Kifo Island Chronicles); “Morning Coffee”.

  • Oregon Trip: Planning and preparing.

Dreams can come true – especially when I’m ROWing along! Photo by Annalise S. Burton.

Writing:

Write1Sub1:

Write rough draft of Terrance’s story (for Kifo Island Chronicles).

  • Cheat Sheet finished; plot and pinch points set.

Submit “Morning Coffee” to World Unknown Review.

  • Exercise 3/5 in revision.

Kifo Island Chronicles:

Sort stories into novella threads; choose three.

Complete background information for at least one, using Cathy Yardley‘s Rock Your Plot. 

Star Trek Chronology Project

Complete current viewing of Star Trek: Enterprise. 

Rewatch Season 1; taking notes and beginning story list.

The IDIC Romance: 

Research fan fiction sites.

Choose one for first submission.

A-Z travel posts:

Create list of A-Z post topics.

  • About 1/5.

Trueborn Warp/Weft series:

Sketch notes for next volume in each series.

  • Chose topics.
  • Basic bullet lists to ponder.

Write at least 750 words daily:

Use 750words.com for freewriting and to chart progress.

  • 20/31 days.

Pre-revision notes, Bounded by a Nutshell.

Editing:

Chameleon’s Dish:

Revise all plot points for Chameleon’s Dish (6.5 scenes).

  • 1.5/6.5 January scenes completed.

  • Revising Midpoint 2/3.

The IDIC Romance:

Complete revision pass for “Tigress T’Pol” as WIPpet project.

  • Yes! Done, and split into two final segments.

Combine “Breaking Protocol”, “Mystery Woman”, and “Magical Possibilities” into new rough draft.

Write1Sub1: 

Revise “Morning Coffee”.

  • New insights will make a longer, better story!

Choose at least 1 more story for 2015 revision.

Playful Learning!

Social Media:

Blog Maintenance:

Maintain regular posting schedule, comments, and visits.

  • Yes.

Build blog queues:

Write at least 1 Coffee and Conversation post:

Write 1 “special” WIPpet.

Blogging Action Plan:

Review Blogging Action Plan; highlight for revision.

Review Lovely Chaos Sidebar; make list of desired changes.

Twitter and Facebook: 

Visit each twice weekly.

  • Facebook: 1/ 2
  • Twitter: 1/ 2

Pinterest, LinkedIn, WANATribe, ect:

Visit one weekly.

  • WANATribe: Seems very quiet over there….
  • Pinterest – ooh, yummy!
  • 2/1.

Share posts – mine, and others’:

Share 3 items a week.

  • Several/3: Twitter and Facebook Writer Page, with hashtags.

Blog views and followers:

Increase blog views to 25 on a semi-regular basis (at least 10 times this month).

  • 19/31.

I know that desk is still there, under a pile of living…!

Hometending:

Family room reset:

Clean the three toy bins (trains; gears; misc.).

Clean the Lego and battle game drawers.

Kitchen reset:

Clean all kitchen counters to left of sink.

Rehome pans and serving dishes to pantry.

Inhabit my study:

Clean and organize floor.

  • Good progress!

Replace calendar and candle.

Use the space weekly.

  • All the writing stuff! =D

Personal Administration:

Clean, organize, and backup Desktop and Writing Bullpen files‘; sort Leisure Time Reading file.

  • More LTR sorting/deleting.

Maintain inbox below 100 messages twice weekly.

  • Tuesday. 1 /2.

Homeschool Administration:

Begin second quarter homeschool reports for both kids, due March 15.

Photo digitalization:

Scan Oregon travel photos; save in organized files with backup.

ROW80:

Submit sponsor post.

Keep visits up-to-date.

Give us peace.

Lifetending:

Oregon vacation:

Make list of what needs doing.

Make schedule for accomplishing list items.

Do what can be done in January; evaluate weekly.

  • Began discussing/ arranging rental car; itinerary; scheduling.

Kindle ebooks:

Read and write reviews for 2 books on my Writers I Know list.

NNWM local group:

Continue attending write-ins whenever possible.

  • Not this week, due to weather.

Interact at least weekly online.

  • Tuesday morning.

Meditation:

Experiment with guided/unguided meditation at least once a week.

TBR Stacks:

Read 1 book from bedroom TBR pile.

Smart Change:

Make a list of goals to focus on, using the methods in this book.

  • Reread most of Chapter One.

Starfleet:

Reconnect with USS Albany group.

  • Emailed!

My beloveds:

One on one time with each, at least twice per month, doing something of value to us both.

  • 4/2 -Accomplice and Annalise.
  • 5/2 – Jeremiah.
  • Fashion; Cookie Clicker; workout/ dinner out; couples’ time/movies.

Paying it Forward:

Complete at least two beta reads and promotional blog posts for other writers as requested.

  • Completed Chapter Four.
  • Betas: 0 /2 complete.

Fitness and Nutrition:

Workouts:

At the Y or a strenuous activity at least weekly.

  • Yes; strong on weights, light on cardio.

Wii Fit at least once weekly, for 15 minutes minimum.

Walk, dance, swim, or physical play:

With children, spouse, and/or dog at least weekly.

  • Workout with Jeremiah.

Practice:

Find out t’ai chi and yoga class schedules.

Intuitive Eating:

Read.

Cooking/ Food Preparation:

Develop a repertoire of 4 self-made food options that support my nutritional goals.

Maintain weekly nutritional quotas; adapt as needed.

Weight:

Maintain or reduce weight; continue monthly checks.

  • Maintained preceding weight. =)

Take a ride on the ROWboat!

Sunset in Florence, Oregon, long ago….

January 14, 2015: Vision and Revision

ROWin’ to my goals!

So, have you seen any good fireworks lately? Some places have them for New Year’s, so you might have.

Me, too.

Mine, though, have been more internal. The flashbangs of new ideas, and the sizzlesparkle of new connections and layers in older ones. Things are shifting, and happening, but a lot of it is the type that will show up later, and cumulatively, like the Grand Finale. It won’t necessarily look like much, in the next few updates, but it’s like setting up for the show. A lot happens that doesn’t show, in the dark, when magic paints the sky as if it was Lite-Brite

So it goes…

  • 2015 goals

  • Round One goals.

January Update #3:

  • Goals attained: blue with strikethrough: 14

  • Goals in progress: green: 27.5

  • Goals-in-waiting: red: 17.5

Focuses:

  • Revisions: Chameleon’s Dish; The IDIC Romance; and “Morning Coffee”.

  • Write1Sub1: Terrance’s Story (for Kifo Island Chronicles); “Morning Coffee”.

  • Oregon Trip: Planning and preparing.

Writing:

Write1Sub1:

Write rough draft of Terrance’s story (for Kifo Island Chronicles).

Submit “Morning Coffee” to World Unknown Review.

  • Reread all completed exercises.
  • Began Exercise 3/5.

Kifo Island Chronicles:

Sort stories into novella threads; choose three.

Complete background information for at least one, using Cathy Yardley‘s Rock Your Plot.

Star Trek Chronology Project:

Complete current viewing of Star Trek: Enterprise.

Rewatch Season 1; taking notes and beginning story list.

  • 1/31 stories sketched.
  • Broken Bow (series pilot) with notes.
  • 6 possible story threads to ponder.

The IDIC Romance:

Research fan fiction sites.

Choose one for first submission.

A-Z travel posts:

Create list of A-Z post topics.

  • List about 1/5 done.

Trueborn Warp/Weft series:

Sketch notes for next volume in each series.

Write at least 750 words daily:

Use 750words.com for freewriting and to chart progress.

  • 13/31 days.

Editing:

Chameleon’s Dish:

Revise all plot points for Chameleon’s Dish (6.5 scenes).

  • .5/6.5 January scenes completed.

  • Revising Midpoint 1/3.

The IDIC Romance:

Complete revision pass for “Tigress T’Pol” as WIPpet project.

  • Extenuating Circumstances”: in revision.

Combine “Breaking Protocol”, “Mystery Woman”, and “Magical Possibilities” into new rough draft.

Write1Sub1:

Revise “Morning Coffee”.

  • In revision. Step 3/5.

Choose at least 1 more story for 2015 revision.

Social Media:

Blog Maintenance:

Maintain regular posting schedule, comments, and visits.

  • Some comments answered/visits made.
  • Posts up to date.

Build blog queues:

Write at least 1 general queue post:

Write 1 “special” WIPpet.

Blogging Action Plan:

Review Blogging Action Plan; highlight for revision.

Review Lovely Chaos Sidebar; make list of desired changes.

Twitter and Facebook:

Visit at least twice weekly.

  • 1 /2 – Twitter.
  • 3/2 - Facebook.

Pinterest, LinkedIn, WANATribe, ect:

Visit at least one weekly.

  • Quick visits to Pinterest and LinkedIn; breaking the ice.

Share posts – mine, and others’:

Share at least 3 items a week.

  • 2/3; to Facebook Writer Page.

Blog views and followers:

Increase blog views to 25 on a semi-regular basis (at least 10 times this month).

  • 11/31.

Hometending:

Family room reset:

Clean the three toy bins (trains; gears; misc.).

  • Began sorting train bin.

Clean the Lego and battle game drawers.

Kitchen reset:

Clean all kitchen counters to left of sink.

  • Emptied “the Bowl bowl”.

Rehome pans and serving dishes to pantry.

Inhabit my study:

Clean and organize floor.

  • A bit; sweeping.

Replace calendar and candle.

Use the space at least once per week.

Personal Administration:

Clean, organize, and backup Desktop and Writing Bullpen files’ sort Leisure Time Reading file.

Maintain inbox below 100 messages at least twice weekly.

  • Yes; Monday.

Homeschool Administration:

Complete second quarter homeschool reports for both kids, due March 15.

Photo digitalization:

Scan Oregon travel photos; save in organized files with backup.

ROW80:

Submit sponsor post.

  • Awaiting final revision.

Keep visits up-to-date.

  • Caught up.

Lifetending:

Oregon vacation:

Make list of what needs doing.

  • In contact with Jim’s sister and others.
  • Much conversation on this end; plans firming up.

Make schedule for accomplishing list items.

Do what can be done in January; evaluate weekly.

Kindle ebooks:

Read and write reviews for 2 books on my Writers I Know list.

  • Free to Learn by Pam Laricchia; reading complete.
  • Reading: 1 /2
  • Reviews: 0 /2

NNWM local group:

Continue attending write-ins whenever possible.

  • Attended latter part of Sunday’s write-in.

Interact at least weekly online.

  • Done twice Monday!

Meditation:

Experiment with guided/unguided meditation at least once a week.

TBR Stacks:

Read 1 book from bedroom TBR pile.

Smart Change:

Make a list of goals to focus on, using the methods in this book.

Starfleet:

Reconnect with USS Albany group.

My beloveds:

One on one time with each, at least twice per month, doing something of value to us both.

Paying it Forward:

Complete at least two beta reads and promotional blog posts for other writers as requested.

  • Chapter One of beta read 1 /2.

Fitness and Nutrition:

Workouts:

At the Y or a strenuous activity at least weekly.

  • Y on Tuesday.

Wii Fit at least once weekly, for 15 minutes minimum.

Walk, dance, swim, or physical play:

With children, spouse, and/or dog at least weekly.

Practice:

Find out t’ai chi and yoga class schedules.

  • Found classes that will fit my availability; also a water aerobics class I may try.

Intuitive Eating:

Read.

Cooking/ Food Preparation:

Develop a repertoire of 4 self-made food options that support my nutritional goals.

  • First steps: shopped, and bought a magazine with simple recipes.

Maintain weekly nutritional quotas; adapt as needed.

Weight:

Maintain or reduce weight; continue monthly checks.

Take a ride on the ROWboat!

JusJoJan Day 12: Fitnessing Them In

Just jottin’ Through January!

If you’re here from ROW80, please feel free to scroll down to the “ROW80″ prompt, and begin there, if you wish. I’ll never know the difference, and I wouldn’t mind at all, even if I did.

Okay, folks – are you ready to sweat?!

What?

What do you mean, you don’t like to sweat while reading blog posts?!

Oh, all right….

Shall we eat, instead?

Well, all right….do whatever you like, but, today, my dancing numbers have landed on Fitness and Nutrition, and I’m going to take care of some unfinished business…

I began setting fitness and nutrition goals for myself sometime last year. Although I’ve dropped a few pounds, and added strength, tone, endurance, and flexibility, my goal is simply to feel at ease and capable in the body I have, as I edge closer and closer to menopause (yes, I am still 45, but we seem to do these things on the early side, in my family of origin). I’d like to be healthy as long as I’m able to be, and I like the way I feel when I’m moving more, and eating things that make me feel good.

But I DON’T like the concept of rigorous, punitive physical training, or strict diets.

So I’ve devised a plan that will ease me to my goals, but has leeway, and absolutely zero guilt tied to those times when I don’t quite make it to my goals…because I’m thinking long-term here, and beating myself up for not sticking the landing is not beneficial!

** ROW80 folks can start here! **

Below are my 2015 fitness and nutrition goals. They’ll change as I attain them, or in accordance with life.

Fitness Goals:

  • Workout at the Y, or other strenuous physical activity, three times weekly.
  • Treadmill: 1.5 miles in 25 minutes, using the Rolling Hills Program. Experiment with light jogging (my knees are iffy).
  • Track: 1 mile (14 laps): jogging short ends of the oval track.
  • Recumbent Bike: 8 miles in 30 minutes – this one has eluded me for a while, but I’m game, and stubborn, and it is gonna feel GOOD when I get there!
  • Rowing Machine: 10 minutes; moderate intensity.
  • Elliptical: 10 minutes; forward and back; moderate intensity.
  • Arc Trainer: 10 minutes; forward and back; moderate intensity.
  • Yoga/ T’ai Chi: Resume classes in one or both; twice a month. I left when I hurt my knee. It feels better, and I miss these!
  • Abs class: Resume, twice a month or more.
  • Water aerobics: Give this a whirl!
  • Swimming: 20 laps, using my own strokes, Olympic sized pool, or playing actively in pool with the kids. Twice a month.
  • Play with husband, kids, and/or dog three times weekly.
  • WiiFit: At least 3 times weekly; 30 minutes.
  • Weights: 5 exercises each for arms, legs, and core.

Now, I know that might sound like a lot, but I won’t be doing everything every time I go. I also expect to work up to most of these, since I’m not there, yet. I expect it to take some time, and I’m fine with that. These are targets to aim for, and keep aiming till I get there.

An apple a day….or something like that!

Nutrition Goals:

Please notice that I don’t say DIET. The very idea, rife with associations of deprivation, abnormal focus on food, guilt, and shame, is repugnant to me. So, I’ve decided on what might be called an anti-diet. Instead of telling myself what I can’t eat, I’m giving myself permission to eat just what I like – and that will include, every week:

  • 6 fruit or vegetable based salads or fruit smoothies.
  • 4 servings of fruits or vegetables (fresh or frozen; raw or cooked).
  • 2 servings of fish or seafood.
  • 4 servings of Greek yogurt.
  • 5 servings of whole grains, raw or cooked.
  • 3 servings of nuts or seeds.
  • 2 servings of vegetable or broth based soups.
  • Read Intuitive Eating and use it to inform my nutritional plans, going forward.

These foods help me to feel good, and offer nutrition in simple forms that appeal to me. By focusing on meeting my ‘quota’ for these, I’ve been less inclined to eat things that feel less healthy. As time goes on, I may adjust quantities, add or subtract items, and otherwise adapt the base list. I’ve found that when I combine the eating goals with the fitness ones, I feel pretty fantastic!

So, now that I’ve put my numbers through their paces, it’s your turn! Do you have nutritional or fitness goals? What approach do you take, in your efforts to attain them? Do you enjoy the challenge, or find yourself dreading it? How can you make the experience more fun and life-affirming?

Jog on out and visit the other Jotters!

Annalise. Actively !